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This is my life, written down on paper

My name is ‘Rosie’. This is my life written down on paper. My childhood was not a very good one. My parents were heroin addicts and as you can imagine they were not very good at being parents. Throughout my whole life I had no boundaries no one to tell me off. I was...

Jen is a brave survivor of the most horrific sexual abuse who still struggles every single day……

I WAS REPEATEDLY RAPED, SEXUALLY ASSAULTED, BEATEN AND TORTURED. At the age of four when I lived with my parents, I suffered from emotional abuse and beatings. At the age six until the age of thirteen I was raped, penetrated, sexually assaulted and beaten by few white...

Natural Thinking by Ria Walton

the frondescence of flourishing leaves  coming to life the essence of new life for spring the re birth of trees the birds singing their melodies sweet songs of morning nature alive with fresh new growth buds blooming their energy forthwith to bring, the floral...

The Three Girls Workshop

Three Girls Workshop With lockdown having restricted the hosting of events ‘in person’ the Foundation recently ran on online meet-up centred around the BAFTA award winning BBC mini-series Three Girls.  The programme (for which Maggie worked as the Programme...

VICTIMS’ COMMISSIONER SAYS CULTURE CHANGE TO SUPPORT AGGRIEVED LONG OVERDUE

By Ryan Hooper, PA Chief Reporter  A new, specific law is required to give more rights to those affected by crime, the Victims' Commissioner for England and Wales has said. Dame Vera Baird QC said a change of culture'' was long overdue'' to look after'' victims of...

“I feel lost, and I don’t know if this pain will ever leave me…..”

I  was abused from age 7 to 20. No one in my life knows except doctors/counsellors/helplines or the occasional Samaritan. I carry on every day like I'm absolutely fine. No one would ever know.   It's almost like having two lives which makes me very sad. I was...

Poem 2 by Michelle

In these eyes I hold the key, To a life you will never see. Beneath the surface of fake smiles

Loveartpix

My name is Dez (AKA Loveartpix) & I am a self-taught Creative Artist from Manchester. I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder over 10 years ago & more recently autism, a diagnosis I am now beginning to come to terms with & better understand. From an early...

Poem by Michelle

I am lost in this darkness, I can't see a light Tormented by my demons, they come worse at night.   I am lost in this spiral of unspeakable pain Longing for a rainbow that comes after the rain.   My head, it's pounding...
Support for Men

Support for Men

 

The Maggie Oliver Foundation provides support for men (18+) who have experienced any form of sexual violence in their past or as an adult. We understand that men and who have been sexually assaulted may experience some of the same effects of sexual assault as women and other  survivors, but they may face other challenges that are more unique to their experience. Some men who have survived sexual assault or abuse feel extreme shame and guilt, believing that they had some control over the abuse or could have done more to stop it. Many men who experienced a physical response during the abuse may be confused and question their sexual orientation. We want to reassure you that normal physical responses do not in any way imply that you wanted, invited, or enjoyed the abuse or assault. If something has happened to you, we believe that it is not your fault and you are not alone and will work with you to understand and overcome these feelings.

Self help resources for men: who have experience sexual abuse or assault / violence:

If you are working with us or considering getting in touch we’ve put some additional self help resources together that may be useful in the first instance. We also have a range of resources available at our centre which your worker will discuss with you.

Please take care and ensure you have adequate support in place when using these resources as certain things may trigger you.

A self-help guide for males who have been sexually abused

https://www.livingwell.org.au/wp-content/uploads/2012/11/Living-Well-A-Guide-for-Men-Booklet.pdf

https://www.blueknot.org.au/Portals/2/Publications/Fact%20Sheet_Survivors_UWEB.pdf?ver=2018-08-29-135142-913

https://www.rainn.org/sites/default/files/SelfCareOnePageRAINN.pdf

https://www.sarsas.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/2017/01/SARSAS-Self-Help-Guide_MenBoys.pdf

Specific male support organisations in the UK

https://www.safeline.org.uk/what-we-do/men/

http://www.malesurvivor.co.uk/about-us/

https://www.survivorsuk.org

Who can I talk to about my abuse?

Legal Options

Support for Men

The impact of childhood sexual abuse

Useful Links

County Lines

How to View Discreetly